Millennial women suffering from loneliness and lovelessness

As an increasing number of Millennial women suffer from loneliness as well as lovelessness, I have been prompted to don my coaching hat and look not only into the WHY as well as the HOW to combat these negative feelings.

There is no doubt that the COVID enforced lockdowns have impaired people’s  communication skills, but I believe there is more to it than just that. For me, the main issue is low self-worth and a resulting dependence on how they are perceived (as opposed to how they are). As the saying goes, “Comparison is the killer of joy”
(Theodore Roosevelt).

Tik Tok and boundless (filtered) selfies on Instagram only go further to encourage these young women to look at themselves in contrast to these “influencers”. And it is not difficult to deduct who comes out on top! But, more importantly, such comparisons often lead to low self-esteem; essentially, Millennials are lacking in ‘self-love’ or, what I prefer to call ‘self-worth’.

The adage “you have to love yourself first, in order to let someone love you” is true; if you are dependent on the Other’s view of yourself to like yourself, you will fail to find love. If, on the other hand, you are content with yourself, – warts and all, – you open up your world and let in people to be your companions in life and in love.

Getting rid of that dependency is the key to banishing loneliness and lovelessness.

• Practice gratitude every morning and be thankful for what you have, instead of ruing the fact your posterior is no match to Kim Kardashian’s or your social and love life is not up to Alex and Olivia Bowen’s, recognise the wealth you enjoy by having the physical attributes and the friends you do have;
• Surround yourself with positive people; to coin a phrase I invented, ‘negativity breeds negativity’; ditch the doom mongers;
• Develop a curiosity for all things around you; learn new skills and above learn from those around you;
• Embrace a positive mindset (link here to pos mindset video)
• Actively engage in their exchanges and above all LISTEN.

Catherine A Baudino, PhD, FRSA, MNCP is an executive coach and author of STEPPING INTO MY SHOES which addresses this issue as well as others. The book can be bought at a discounted price via her website: https://drcatherinecoaching.com/book/

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